The Arousibility logo, with the text 'Pain, Pleasure & Practicality' in black capital letters underneath the logo on a white background.Welcome to Arousibility!

Arousibility’s EthosA picture of Ruby Rousson, a white female in her mid 20s with brown chin length hair and green eyes wearing white frames, sat in front of her black wheelchair, smiling.

Hi, my name is Ruby Rousson (she/her/they) and I am a queer chronically ill disabled British writer, sex worker, sex educator and founder of Arousibility, Parlour Talk and The Ruby Umbrella.

Arousibility is one part of (what I call) the Parlour Talk Universe, through which I want to break down as many societal taboos as possible. The Ruby Umbrella focuses on sex work,  Arousibility focuses on sex and disability and has started to expand to include talk about self-care and even the odd bit of erotica, and Parlour Talk is a home for topics that don’t have a site … yet.

Arousibility started out as a personal blog. I wrote about sex work, reviewed sex toys and discussed my disability under my name. Then the site went through a few name changes until I finally settled on calling it Arousibility – a mix of ‘arousal/arousability’ and ‘disability’.

Most of the time, TV, movies and even porn make sex out to be a smooth transition from one activity to another, with no mishaps, pain or problems, whereas real-life sex is anything but straightforward. Sex can be chaotic, messy, and complex. Sometimes you’re with a partner that is chronically fatigued, sometimes you’ve got to navigate over sensitised nerves with the perfect amount of stimulation,  and sometimes you realise you’re allergic to the lube you’ve just put in your vagina – all personal experiences.

No one with a disability or chronic illness is taught how to have sex without triggering a POTs flare, masturbate without pain, give a blowjob without locking your jaw or even figure out how to do the basics like finding a bra that doesn’t cause pain. It’s all a lot of trial and error that can add up – in time, energy and money. My hope is that by sharing all the information I can find (and breaking down as many societal taboos as I can along the way), being brutally honest about my own experiences with everything from the impact of mental health in masturbation to the accessibility of sex toys and offering a safe place to explore somewhat unusual questions, the world might be a bit of a better (and more informed) place.

Portfolio and Awards


Work With Arousibility

It is my aim to include a wide variety of voices whilst trying to destigmatise disability and sex, so please get in touch if you’d like to write for Arousibility.

Companies, if you think we’d be a good fit and have read and agreed to the policies, I’d love to work with you.

Website Accessibility

I have tried to make Arousibility as accessible as possible, but I am still improving things like image descriptions and looking for better accessibility plugins.

There is an inbuilt blog post reader, but some adblockers do prevent it from showing – which is why an empty rectangle might show up above the blog title! All you have to do to get it working is turn the adblocker off and refresh the page.

I’m also reviewing and improving video transcripts.


This site contains content of an adult nature (inc. sex toy reviews, pictures, erotica, and discussions about sex, sensuality, and content of the erotic nature). Anyone that is under the legal age in their country to view adult-orientated material should not view this blog.


If you’re under the legal age to access adult materials where you live, please leave, and if you are under 18 and looking for information about sex, relationships or your body, please visit ScarleteenBrook, or Bish.


All pictures featured unless otherwise stated (unless there is a watermark on them, they are screenshots or images from guest writers), are from Story Blocks, Canva, Deposit Photos, and, Pexels.