15 Practical Blow Job Tips for TMD, Part 2

a.k.a how to blow your partner without (too) much jaw pain!

Part 1 of the blow job tips and jaw pain was one of those posts that blew up unexpectedly, and since I’m still giving blow jobs, and my jaw is still a right bastard I have even more tips for you! Some are new, and some are an extension of the tips from the first part.

Like last time, a lot of these tips come to me whilst giving a blow job, but as my memory is terrible it’s taken quite some time to remember the tips. Since I write more often now *ahem* I’ve found that trying to write down notes mid-blow job ruined the mood somewhat (even with a blindfold).

Don’t force the blow job.

Sometimes, no matter what you do your mouth/throat can’t deal with a cock that day, and that’s okay. The more you force it the less you’ll enjoy it, and the more pain (not the fun kind) you’ll be in – and that’s not what anyone wants. I know I wrote some tips if you’re really determined last time – like taking pain killers, hot water bottles, etc, but don’t underestimate the effect a lick or a kiss has. The penis is full of sensitive nerve endings, and a few licks can have a big effect.

Be mindful of the jaw ‘hinge’.

There are 2 steps to opening the jaw, the ‘small bit, and the ‘bigger bit’, and sometimes you can really feel them (I just tried opening my mouth wide again, and ow. Don’t do it). I’ve found that if I open my jaw too wide during a blow job, I can’t get it to shut again without pain or the pain will start after I’ve closed it.  So, if my jaw is hurting, I’ll try to only open it a little, and focus on what I can fit in my mouth without unhinging my jaw. It does take practice to remember – I’ve found myself opening my jaw wide far more often than not, but it will become a habit in time.

Use a stroker.

Find a stroker to cover the base of the cock so you’re not opening your jaw wide trying to deep-throat. It’s not worth the pain. Godemiche (not sponsored) has recently come out with OffBeat, a colourful silicone stroker with a textured inside. Whilst the OffBeat might be a little snug for some, the ‘Grande’ is the perfect size to stroke the base of the cock whilst sucking the tip.

Keep the sides of your mouth moist.

I’ve had my mouth and lips split because my lips weren’t moist enough for a blow job. If your lips are dry, get your tongue involved – swirl the tongue around the cock, and at the same time push salvia (or lube) to the sides of your mouth and lips to coat them.

Alternatively, try putting on a neutral lip balm. Keep away from things that contain peppermint/plumping agents, unless you’re aiming for a tingling sensation.

Create hand signals.

Sometimes hand signals are needed to communicate, and even though they’re seen mostly in BDSM there’s no shame in using them for vanilla pursuits also.

A double-tap to the leg and my partner knows the blow job just isn’t working out, and we need to change positions or stop entirely. Hand signals mean that I can communicate with ease and without worry, and my partner can relax knowing I’ll tell him if something is wrong. Hand signals also prevent me from doing the ‘talking with a mouth full of cock’ thing, and that usually ends up in pain … and embarrassment.

Let gravity help …

Depending on your position, if you’re head to head with the cock you’ve got to put a lot more momentum into cock sucking, but if your head is over the top of the cock looking down you can nod your head over the cock to reduce strain on the jaw and neck. This one might take a little practice to find the best position that works for you.

… or take a load off.

Sometimes I will lie down on my side and rest my head on his stomach so I’m actively aware of how much I move my jaw. Letting his stomach take the weight off my head helps with neck/shoulder pain also.

Let your mind wander.

In the age of mindfulness, there’s something great about being mentally present for a blow job. However, I’d also argue that there’s something wonderful about letting your mind wander, especially if thoughts are revolving around pain.

For example, I want to make my partner come, but I know it will hurt. So, if I’m getting to the point where he’s close and my jaw is starting to ache, I’ll close my eyes and mentally drift. Sometimes I concentrate on the motion, sometimes his moans, and sometimes I write blog posts like these. It doesn’t mean I don’t love what I’m doing, in fact, I’d argue it means I really love what I’m doing.

As always, please make sure to check in with your body before trying to push it!

Use everything at your disposal.

Do you really want to give a blow job, but your jaw aches? If your partner has a spot that makes them shiver, or you know some anal will turn them on – use that knowledge! Use every single tip, trick, and a toy at your disposal to heighten the experience and make it pain-free for yourself.

Touch everywhere but the cock.

Denial is a powerful thing. Now, I’m rather dominant in the bedroom, so denying my partner the thing they want most comes naturally to me. I adore the begging, moans, and the writhing. Denial also means that when I do eventually get to the main event (blow job), I won’t have to put as much work in, so less pain!

Even if you’re not a Domme, make a game of touching, licking, and nibbling everywhere but the genitals is a great way to both prolong the tease, and shorten the strain on your jaw.

Don’t underestimate the power of ‘just’.

Along the same train of thought as denial, put your mouth near but not quite, put your mouth over but don’t close it, blow on the skin and then pull away. The ‘nearly but not quite there’ method can do a lot.

Heighten Sensations, and Distract Senses

I mentioned last time using a blindfold, but music can help to distract noisy brains. Music can also set the mood, and a blow job done in time to the music should never be underestimated – but do watch out for the inevitable cheesy hit that sneaks into the playlist, I’m looking at you, show tunes.

Use Suction

Suck the tip of the cock into the mouth and then use the momentum of the suction to pull the rest of the member in without opening the jaw too wide. I will admit, it’s not the sexiest thing in the world – it amuses me greatly, but it is effective!

Communicate, and Set Boundaries

Communication has to be in here, even though I’ve mentioned it before. Communication is vital, especially when dealing with chronic pain/lax joints. It’s always worth informing your partner before you get started just how your jaw feels so if you have to stop mid-blow job, they’re ready.

Relax

It’s really easy to tense up and cause yourself more pain. Make sure you check in with your body to feel for areas of tension (especially the jaw, neck, and shoulders) and then make a conscious effort to relax. If you need to take a quick pause and give a hand-job for a bit – your body will thank you.

As always, these are tips I’ve picked up through practice. There are others I’m sure, so if you have any and are willing to share please leave them down below!