• Articles,  Sex & Disability

    2020, the year I stop masturbating.

    I've had a bit of a revelation. So, let’s talk about my relationship with masturbation. I like orgasms. I really like them. However, because my body is complicated having an orgasm isn’t straightforward. Orgasms cause pain, exhaustion, and occasionally these effects that last for weeks. I really wish I was joking, but I’m not. Orgasming can truly fuck me up,…

  • Articles,  Masturbation,  Sex & Disability

    I’m scared to masturbate.

    First off, whilst there was a period of body enforced orgasm denial, I'm happy to report it's at an end! Since my last post, my body cooperated enough to have sex, and 2 blissful orgasms. Unsurprisingly, I also spent the rest of the day recovering. Now, let's dive into the apparent mental orgasm denial I've gotten myself into.Here's the thing,…

  • Articles,  Masturbation,  Sex & Disability

    Relearning how to masturbate.

    Just before falling from the precipice of orgasm there’s a single minded focus that comes from the build up of pleasure that is both delightful, and frantic. The holding of breath, tensing of muscles, and urgency of movement is because your body takes over, whilst the mind shuts down. The pleasure demands to be fulfilled through release.

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    Figuring out oral sex.  

    Up until last year, I was not a fan of receiving oral sex. I was (and still am) a huge fan of giving oral sex, but not receiving it. Why? People either had a habit of making me feel bad for the look of my vulva (unsurprisingly, that was Douche), or they were just really really bad at it, and…

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    Hearing loss in the bedroom

    Something you may or may not know - I have hearing loss. As always with me, no one is sure why, and I'm still getting it investigated. I first noticed it late last year when everything else kicked off, and it seems to be accompanied by tinnitus, fluctuating sound independent of the hearing loss, vertigo and balance issues. Whilst I…

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    Sometimes Sex Hurts

    Sometimes sex hurts.  It would be really remiss of me to write about sex toys, sex, and sexuality, without including the realities of sex. Sometimes sex hurts, whether that’s because you don’t get on with position, a part of your anatomy is playing up – depending on the time of the month of the cervix will sit lower or higher…