There was always something else underneath, something that messed with my brain for a long time; ‘pleasure’ was sort of off limits.
So often when you talk about these things that's the question which comes up over and over again. Why? Why are you trans: is it because you were indoctrinated? Why are you bisexual: is it because you're still half in the closet? Why are you kinky: is it because you were traumatised? Why are you poly: is it because you're…